May brings about mixed feelings in a lot of people.\u00a0 Most students are happy to be done with classes and finals or even happy to be finally graduating.\u00a0 However, being done means you\u2019ve completed one thing and you are moving onto the next.\u00a0 Moving on means saying good-bye.\u00a0 Some students are only saying good-bye for the summer.\u00a0 Others may be saying good-bye forever.\u00a0 Saying good-bye also makes this a very sad time of year.<\/p>\n

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Transitions are hard.\u00a0 College is constant transition.\u00a0 It is hard to maintain relationships and friendships throughout the four years of college and beyond.\u00a0 Sharing space, classes and experiences bring people together.\u00a0 What happens when those things no longer exist?\u00a0 Some relationships and friendships move on together but some pull apart.\u00a0 The unknown can be scary.\u00a0 Even with technology making it easier to stay in touch, it still can be hard to keep up with your friends once you are scattered again across the country.\u00a0 Even if it is just for the summer.<\/p>\n

Most of\u00a0 us have a hard time saying good-bye.\u00a0 A lot of people will start pulling away a few weeks or months earlier to make the actual separation time easier.\u00a0 When that day comes they like to either sneak away or leave with a very quick good-bye.\u00a0 They don\u2019t like the emotions of good-byes and try to avoid them at all possible.\u00a0 If you used to watch the Office you know that Steve Carell left the show before the last season.\u00a0 His character, Michael Scott, was leaving his job to move to Colorado with his fiancee.\u00a0 He told everyone in the office that he was leaving on a certain day, so everyone planned to say good-bye to him on that day.\u00a0 However, he started to say good bye the day before he said he was leaving.\u00a0 No one really knew this was their last chance to talk to him, so they didn\u2019t make it a big deal.\u00a0 Michael left the office at 4pm that day knowing he wasn\u2019t coming back on his \u201cfinal\u201d day.\u00a0 He sneaks away instead of letting everyone really say good-bye because it was just too hard to deal with all those sad emotions.<\/p>\n

This may seem like a good way to handle things, but it doesn\u2019t allow the other people to express their emotions.\u00a0 Some people may feel like they don\u2019t have any closure.\u00a0 It may be easier on the one leaving, but it doesn\u2019t make it easier on the person or people who are being left.<\/p>\n

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Some people will cause a fight before they have to say good-bye.\u00a0 They purposefully try to push the other person away believing it will make the separation easier.\u00a0 This person may believe their friend or friends won\u2019t stay in touch.\u00a0 Rather than risk that rejection, they reject them first by causing a conflict.\u00a0 This may cause the relationship or friendship to really end.\u00a0 While maintaining a relationship or friendship long distance isn\u2019t easy, it is possible.\u00a0 It isn\u2019t always necessary to end a relationship in order to deal with a separation.\u00a0 If it is what both people want, that is fine.\u00a0 However, if it is just one person making the decision, they risk losing great friendships to avoid possible future pain.<\/p>\n

Some people become more clingy in the months or weeks leading up to a separation.\u00a0 They want to spend every waking moment with the person or people before they leave.\u00a0 They want to relive a lot of memories by talking about or doing things that they\u2019ve done with their friends in the past.\u00a0 When they do say good-bye they become very emotional and end up saying good-bye several times before they actually leave.\u00a0 This is a lot of pressure to put on a relationship or friendship before a separation.\u00a0 Everyone has a lot going on before school ends.\u00a0 It can be hard to balance your friends with having to study or get work done before you leave.\u00a0 The added pressure of making too much time for your friends can cause conflict.<\/p>\n

There is no best way to say good-bye.\u00a0 We all tend to handle it awkwardly.\u00a0 As this time of mixed emotions is looming before you, just do your best to be yourself.\u00a0 Let your friends know in your own way that you will miss them.\u00a0 Then remember that time has a way of working things out.\u00a0 You will either be able to maintain the relationship or friendship across the miles or other things will fill up your time and you won\u2019t miss that person as much anymore.\u00a0 Some people are meant to be in our lives just a short time.\u00a0 Other people tend to be life long friends that no distance seems to be able to change.\u00a0 The end of the school year is a bittersweet time for everyone.\u00a0 Cherish your memories and be thankful to Facebook for keeping you somewhat connected either through the summer or through your lifetime.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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